Here's a powerful secret about confidence: it's not built overnight, but through a specific psychological loop that gets stronger each time you use it.

This loop explains why some people seem to get more confident while others stay stuck. Understanding it changes everything.

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Have you ever felt yourself grow braver after each chance you spoke up?

The loop works like this: Small competence builds self-efficacy, which reduces anxiety, which enables better performance, which builds more competence. Then it repeats.

Self-efficacy means believing you can handle a specific situation. It's different from general confidence.

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Can you think of something you feel capable of doing well?

Here's how it starts: When you successfully complete a small speaking task, your brain notes "I handled that."

This creates self-efficacy - the belief that you can handle similar situations. Even tiny wins count, like asking one question in a meeting.

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What's the smallest speaking success you've had recently?

Self-efficacy directly reduces anxiety because your brain has evidence you can cope. Instead of "I can't do this," you think "I've done something like this before."

This shift from catastrophic thinking to evidence-based thinking calms your nervous system.

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How does remembering past successes typically make you feel?

With lower anxiety, you perform better. Less mental energy goes to worry, so more goes to your actual message and connecting with your audience.

Better performance creates more success, which builds more self-efficacy. The loop accelerates upward.

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Which comes first for you - feeling confident or performing well?