As an executive assistant, you play a crucial role in protecting your executive’s focus and energy while still maintaining strong relationships with colleagues, clients, and stakeholders. Saying no is part of the job, but how you do it makes all the difference.

You’ll often find yourself in situations like:

• Decline last-minute meeting requests when your executive is fully booked
• Push back on additional tasks when your workload is at capacity
• Manage competing priorities from multiple teams or leaders

Mastering the art of saying no — without burning bridges — helps you keep your executive’s schedule on track and your own workload manageable.

Knowing when to say no is just as important as how you say it. As an executive assistant, you’ll need to assess when your executive (or you) have reached capacity, or when a request would disrupt higher priorities. Common situations include:

• Your executive’s calendar is fully booked with critical meetings or deadlines
• You’re already managing urgent, high-impact tasks
• A new request would compromise the quality of existing work
• The request conflicts with previously set priorities or commitments

When you recognize these moments, it’s time to set a boundary. Instead of a blunt “No, that’s not possible,” aim for a response that’s clear, respectful, and solution-oriented.

This approach acknowledges the urgency, sets a boundary, and immediately offers a constructive next step.

When you’re juggling multiple urgent requests, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Staying calm and composed is key. If you need to push back, do it with empathy and a focus on solutions.

Here’s how this might sound in a real conversation:

• Victoria: Hi Jake, can you pull together a detailed expense report for the last quarter by the end of today?
• Jake: Hi Victoria, I want to make sure the report is thorough and accurate. Given my current workload, I can have a summary ready by end of day and deliver the full report by tomorrow afternoon. Would that work for you?
• Victoria: That would be great! Thanks for letting me know. Please send the summary today and the full report tomorrow.

In this example, Jake stays calm, clearly communicates his capacity, and offers a practical alternative—demonstrating both professionalism and care.

When you need to offer a more realistic alternative, try following these steps, known as the A.C.O.C. method:

• Acknowledge the request and its importance
• Communicate your current capacity or constraints
• Offer a realistic alternative or next step
• Confirm the new plan or timeline

Using this approach not only helps you say no with tact, but also protects you and your executive from burnout. To further prevent burnout while managing competing demands:

• Prioritize ruthlessly: Focus on what’s most important and urgent for your executive.
• Set realistic expectations: Be honest about what can be accomplished within a given timeframe.
• Take short breaks: Even a few minutes to reset can help you stay calm and focused.
• Ask for support: If your workload is consistently unmanageable, communicate with your executive or team about redistributing tasks.

You’ll get to practice these techniques in upcoming role-play sessions. These scenarios will help you build confidence in setting boundaries, staying composed, and offering solutions.