Welcome to your journey into Listening to Coach, Not Just Hear. In this unit, you’ll discover how to move beyond simply hearing your team’s words and start listening in a way that unlocks trust, insight, and real growth. You’ll learn to notice what’s said—and what’s left unsaid—so you can coach with greater impact and presence.

You can expect to explore how to tune into emotion, tone, and meaning beneath the surface, respond in ways that empower rather than just solve, manage your own reactions in high-stakes moments, and reinforce coaching outcomes through thoughtful follow-up. These skills will help you create a more open, supportive environment where your team feels truly heard and motivated to grow.

Effective coaching starts with listening for more than just facts. When a team member says "I'm fine", it can be helpful to pay attention to a range of cues—not just their words, but also their tone, pacing, and other ways they might communicate.

For example, you might notice changes in tone of voice, longer pauses, or shifts in how someone expresses themselves. Keep in mind that people communicate differently: some may avoid eye contact, use fewer gestures, or have a flat tone for reasons unrelated to how they feel. Rather than making assumptions, stay curious and open to each person’s unique style.

If you sense there might be more beneath the surface, try gently exploring it. The chart below references a few scenarios where you may need to tune into more than just what is being said explicitly, and how to respond:

Listening as a coach means looking for the story behind the words. Facts are what’s said; meaning is why it matters to the person. For instance, if someone reports, "The project is behind schedule," the fact is the delay, but the underlying meaning might be worry about letting the team down or fear of criticism. To uncover this, ask open questions like "What’s the biggest concern for you about this delay?" or reflect back what you sense: "It sounds like you’re carrying a lot of pressure right now." This approach helps your team feel understood and opens the door to deeper, more productive coaching conversations.

Here’s a brief example of how listening beyond the surface can play out in a real conversation:

• Jessica: Hey Chris, do you have a minute?
• Chris: Of course, Jessica. What’s up?
• Jessica: Oh, it’s nothing major. I’m just a bit behind on the new project, but I’ll catch up.
• Chris: I noticed you sounded a little down when you said that. Is there something about the project that’s weighing on you?
• Jessica: Honestly, I’m worried I’m letting the team down. I keep thinking I should be further along.
• Chris: Thanks for sharing that. It sounds like you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself. What do you think would help you feel more supported right now?
• Jessica: Maybe just talking through the priorities would help me get back on track.

In this exchange, Chris listens for more than just the words. By noticing Jessica’s tone and gently exploring what’s beneath her initial response, Chris uncovers the real concern and creates space for a more meaningful coaching conversation.

As you practice these skills, you’ll start to notice more opportunities to support, challenge, and empower your team. In the upcoming role-play session, you’ll get to apply these listening techniques in a realistic scenario and see how they can transform your coaching conversations.